outside of self-actualization, i don’t advocate for much. i am a libertarian at heart and believe people should arrive at their own conclusions, in their own ways, for their own reasons. however, if there’s one piece of advice i’d give to anyone, it would be this:
it’s a simple, and yes, superficial mantra. but at its core it speaks to a sentiment that i feel has been lost in our world: eyes on your own test.
it’s easy to get caught up in games of social comparison. questions of, “why her, and not me?” in fact, i do it all the time. i am just as guilt as you. why wouldn’t i be? it’s hard to not feel behind when so much of the world seems so far ahead. but this is simply a distraction. the real work is becoming your own fantasy, not living vicariously through the dreams of others.
diahann carroll once said that “fantasy is nice. it helps us get through reality.” the mystics would tell you that reality is what you make it. the gurus would say something similar. freud would …
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